Reality is an evil mistress
Reality is an evil mistress that quickly reminds of the things we value and treasure. Everyday life tends not to have much to do with reality and truth. Each day we play a delicate game of hide and seek. We attempt to hide that which makes us vulnerable and can hurt us, while at the same time seeking out the same in others. For most, the seeking is noble and we are only interested in protecting and allowing others to confide in us. We know that there is nothing that makes us feel better than to be able to confess that which we are hiding.
There is purity in confessing and trusting another human being with your deepest secrets. Religions and many Professions such as doctors, therapists, and lawyers (some more noble than others) setup strict rules to allow this confession, creating a bond of trust and commitment. Often people will turn to those in these positions to gain the bond that they cannot find in their own lives or to confess something so deep and so dark that they cannot trust anyone else.
But those manufactured relationships can never truly replace those bonds we create when reality comes crashing into our everyday life. We see this truth in the eyes of our old that have been married for more years than they can remember. It is in the souls of the children as they embrace their mothers, the one person who often knows them better than they know themselves. It is in the unspoken bond of our war heroes in all countries with the ones they served with, a bond so many of us will never know.
These relationships are an eternal dichotomy of experience. They are where true and pure happiness is experienced, distraction and our fabricated life can be put away and a true sense of self is shared and nurtured.
But when this trust is violated or broken there is no greater pain. A cut so deep it often can never completely heal. We will carry with us this trespass into our reality into every relationship and daily situation. No person can go through life with out experiencing the depth of this pain. It is the fear of that pain that creates the joy in the confession. For some they only know the pain as it started when they were only a small child. If a parent does not create the foundation for joy then they are risking the soul of a child to never truly trust another. Trust in a parent is the basis for all future relationships.
Anger, deceit, and jealously are created from an absence of trust. They are the fire that burns within all of us. Just like like pain and happiness we can not live with out them, we can only contain and manage them.
Protect your reality, protect who you are, and let the world see it whenever you can. Growth comes from letting all in. Be honest and honesty will return to you. Be open and true, and you will create eternal bonds that can never be broken. Allow yourself to be hurt, and you will be stronger.
